Blackhawk wrote: Thu Jan 06, 2022 9:48 am
I know it's becoming a broken record, but you can choose to change that. The 'great' can continue if you want it to. You just have to accept that it will be a different great.
So my wife and I have been watching the latest episodes of Queer Eye on Netflix and one of the episodes really seems to fit here (Season 6, Episode 5 - Craw-Zaddy). The Fab 5 comes in to help the 68-year old owner of a Crawfish restaurant in Texas who has basically been grieving his wife for the last 10 years and has stagnated - the restaurant is exactly as it was when she died, he's let himself go and no longer has a life outside the restaurant, etc. They help him get to a place where he can still remember her and honor her but start a new phase in his life. It'd be worth watching, I think.
I'm pretty sure your wife wouldn't want you to be suffering with her gone. If I were to die, I'd want my wife to find a new, different happiness for the rest of her life, whatever that meant.
God yes. Starting with my cancer I've thought about that from time to time. The people I love need to be happy when I'm gone. The thought of someone I care about spending years miserable dwelling on me would be a nightmare for me. Grieve me, remember me, but once a year or two have passed, pack my stuff up (it's just stuff), sell or give away most of it, put most of the rest in a box, and just keep a few happy items out - then move on and find some new way to be happy!
I think just the holidays hit hard. And the damn cold miserable weather. Stuck in one room of the house with the door closed is annoying.
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"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
Would be nice but wouldn't help as I cant afford to heat the house and the floors are sagging half a foot in some places so no way to seal those and they are getting worse. Im starting to worry now that the house wont outlast me. I walk up hill to the bedroom. If Im drunk I can really tell how bad stuff is lol.
Most likely Ill die when one of the large clothes dressers topple over on me on the way to the bathroom.
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"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
My youngest has already claimed dibs on my D&D miniature collection. And that she wouldn’t sell them.
"A lie can run round the world before the truth has got its boots on." -Terry Pratchett, The Truth "The presence of those seeking the truth is infinitely to be preferred to those who think they've found it." -Terry Pratchett, Monstrous Regiment
I have 28 mortgage payments left. We owe less on the house than on my wife's car. We could pay them both off today but at 2.625% and 0% respectively there's no real point.
0% on a car usually means a rebate cost was rolled into the payment so paying off early only nullifies part of your rebate.
At the the time they refused to negotiate re-financing for my underwater mortgage no matter what Obama and company insisted they were doing. I could never get under 5.5% with perfect credit even as they were giving first time buyers with no history 3.25%, so the point of paying off the mortgage was 1) to quell the rage and 2) the satisfaction of not having to make a payment. In retrospect, the discipline of investing over the long haul should have seen all that extra principle instead of paying my house down quickly but still, it feels good to be debt fee since 2014. I hadn't really known debt before home ownership so six figures of debt was very hard to accept.
Daehawk wrote: Thu Jan 06, 2022 12:43 pm
Would be nice but wouldn't help as I cant afford to heat the house and the floors are sagging half a foot in some places so no way to seal those and they are getting worse. Im starting to worry now that the house wont outlast me. I walk up hill to the bedroom. If Im drunk I can really tell how bad stuff is lol.
i get that it's easier to tell oneself that 'everything is fine' while denying they're crushingly depressed... but my parents are another example. dad drinks himself to drunkeness every night in front of the TV. mom clicks endlessly on a solitaire game for hours at a time (she's already completed it long ago, just keeps mindlessly replaying it again and again and again...) neither of them want to do anything about their clearly unhappy lifestyle - and actually make arguments and excuses FOR continuing it. one lesson i have learned is to have a plan in mind for post-retirement life, or you just slip into an ever-spiraling stagnation, and your world just keeps shrinking while your mental faculties atrophy, and ANY change at all - even if vastly for the better - becomes a scary proposition.
Howcome the fatter I get, the more my pants sag in the back (not the front) and belts don't help? I'm probably less than an inch away from being in plumber pants territory an' my shirts won't stay tucked in an' I'm snappin' belt loops pulling my pants up in the back.
Weight loss thread, I'll be seeing you soon and It's probably time to revisit becoming suspender wearer, rather than a belt wearer.
LordMortis wrote: Thu Jan 06, 2022 4:20 pm
Howcome the fatter I get, the more my pants sag in the back (not the front) and belts don't help? I'm probably less than an inch away from being in plumber pants territory an' my shirts won't stay tucked in an' I'm snappin' belt loops pulling my pants up in the back.
Weight loss thread, I'll be seeing you soon and It's probably time to revisit becoming suspender wearer, rather than a belt wearer.
hahaha. With weight Im at a good weight now but my belly is a hoarder. It refuses to play nice and go away like the rest of me. I may need to file suit and eviction.
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"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
Cochineal is in every ingredients list I look at now that I know what it is. Why must I drink bugs?!
I mean I'm not against eating bugs in principle. I'm just bothered we aren't using a bugless colouring alternative by default. Though I get inertia and everything.
I saw a commercial on late night TV. It said, "Forget everything you know about slipcovers." So I did. And it was a load off my mind. Then the commercial tried to sell me slipcovers, and I didn't know what the hell they were. -- Mitch Hedberg
The New York Times Co. is buying sports news site The Athletic for $550 million, the latest move in its strategy to expand its audience of paying subscribers as the newspaper print ads business fades.
The New York Times Co. is buying sports news site The Athletic for $550 million, the latest move in its strategy to expand its audience of paying subscribers as the newspaper print ads business fades.
When I think of sports coverage, I definitely think of the New York Times.
Jaymann wrote: Sat Jan 08, 2022 12:30 am
Sweet! Got another $18.90 in the BoughtMilk settlement. Almost enough to buy a gallon of milk.
ditto
Now all the games sales are over of course.
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I am Dyslexic of Borg, prepare to have your ass laminated.
I guess Ray Butts has ate his last pancake. http://steamcommunity.com/id/daehawk
"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
Well that was a hassle spending my $18.90. The problem is you have to make a purchase that is completely covered by the card they give you. You can't apply that to a larger purchase and then make up the difference with another card. I ended up buying some underwear that was $18.31 with tax and delivery. But it took way too long. I'm sure these asses make a killing on people who partially or never redeem.
hitbyambulance wrote: Sat Jan 08, 2022 5:53 pm
when a forum has existed long enough, there's a post for everything. one may have even written it themselves in the depths of history.
I'm imagining us being artificial intelligences who themselves are eventually terminated by a newer, stronger A.I. as it systematically detects that each of our personalities truly has finally made every possible post and is therefore redundant.
I saw a commercial on late night TV. It said, "Forget everything you know about slipcovers." So I did. And it was a load off my mind. Then the commercial tried to sell me slipcovers, and I didn't know what the hell they were. -- Mitch Hedberg
I thought on it all day what to buy with my milk money but didn't think of a thing. If only there was a hot young Melanie Griffith to rent.
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I am Dyslexic of Borg, prepare to have your ass laminated.
I guess Ray Butts has ate his last pancake. http://steamcommunity.com/id/daehawk
"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
Daehawk wrote: Sat Jan 08, 2022 11:54 pm
I thought on it all day what to buy with my milk money but didn't think of a thing. If only there was a hot young Melanie Griffith to rent.
My guess is even an old Melanie Griffith will run you more than $18.90.
I saw a commercial on late night TV. It said, "Forget everything you know about slipcovers." So I did. And it was a load off my mind. Then the commercial tried to sell me slipcovers, and I didn't know what the hell they were. -- Mitch Hedberg
LordMortis wrote: Thu Jan 06, 2022 4:20 pm
Howcome the fatter I get, the more my pants sag in the back (not the front) and belts don't help? I'm probably less than an inch away from being in plumber pants territory an' my shirts won't stay tucked in an' I'm snappin' belt loops pulling my pants up in the back.
Weight loss thread, I'll be seeing you soon and It's probably time to revisit becoming suspender wearer, rather than a belt wearer.
Alexa: How about a nice pair of suspenders?
I gave up and wear suspenders under everything now.
Daehawk wrote: Sat Jan 08, 2022 11:54 pm
I thought on it all day what to buy with my milk money but didn't think of a thing. If only there was a hot young Melanie Griffith to rent.
My guess is even an old Melanie Griffith will run you more than $18.90.
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I am Dyslexic of Borg, prepare to have your ass laminated.
I guess Ray Butts has ate his last pancake. http://steamcommunity.com/id/daehawk
"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
I saw the UK applied for a no fly zone over the palace. I wonder if the Queen is ill? She is very old and her consort died recently too. I dont recall seeing her over the holidays doing her speech stuff.
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I am Dyslexic of Borg, prepare to have your ass laminated.
I guess Ray Butts has ate his last pancake. http://steamcommunity.com/id/daehawk
"Has high IQ. Refuses to apply it"
When in doubt, skewer it out...I don't know.
Oh.. wait, I don't either. 
