ImLawBoy wrote: ↑Mon Jan 24, 2022 11:37 am
I suspect the thing that is really causing the friction here with Unagi's post is the word choice.
I don't know why the people on this board ever feel like reaching down to you while your marriage is in failure and you are at the bottom of your rope.
Had it been phrased more along the lines of, "People here have helped you out when you had personal problems, and then you turn and gloat at them about an issue that is important to them," I think the reaction would have been much less harsh. Saying someone's "marriage is in failure" is a pretty loaded statement and is likely to cause reactions.
Agree, good point. It's actually what caught me initially, but then I realized the actual intent, and that the post was worded very poorly.
Side note: I never read MSD's marriage issues thread (I guess that happened in my couple year's long absence), but I also went through a marriage crisis and shared VERY openly about it here (I wonder in hindsight if that was smart, but at the time, I honestly didn't feel like I had a choice...almost felt compelled to do it). In any case, at the time, I was obsessed with that thread (my own). I read every response immediately, and deeply appreciated the posters who took so much time to write sincerely helpful things, even when some of the things I read, I didn't agree with. It was honestly like a lifeline at that particular point in my life, and I will always remember the support I received (ironically, IIRC, MSD commented in that thread, and pretty much said "dump that bitch ASAP"
That's not really related, just interesting to note!!
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ANYWAY, I really can't fathom a situation where I would do a drive-by Nelson "HA HA!!" post in a thread where those people posted. But I am not politically opposed to the active posters, so there is that. I wouldn't do something like that ANYway, because that's just not the way I roll, but given the prior support/thread?
"Bad form" is about the nicest way to describe that IMO.