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I think it might be the first time I've heard the phrase "the nineteen hundreds," and certainly the first time I've heard it unironically.
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Rats! No mail today. Banks are probably closed.
Guess I'll just have to spend all day gaming. <sigh>
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Sunday is great...no bills!! Ill take holidays like MLK too though.
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Ive gone many many years without a edible pimento cheese spread. I mean a decade at least. They are either nasty bad, sourish bad, or just plain uneatable .

A few months back though I discovered one at our local Dollar General store and figured why not. had nothing to lose. Turns out its the best Ive ever tasted. Made with real cheese and such but best of all it has jalapeno pepper in it. Ive never had any with that before. Its not super hot but just enough to feel it. Wonderful spread. Im so happy to have one I can eat again.

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The list of ingredients does look pretty good in that everything is recognizable as a real food.
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Back when I had a moon roof on my car I never could use it properly.
Never could get my butt that high.
Hard time driving in that position too.
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Today I learned that Star Trek Voyager lead to Barack Obama becoming president.

You see, Star Trek Voyager (started in 1997) has 7 of 9, played by Jeri Ryan, and apparently, Jeri has a very jealous husband Jack Ryan with political ambitions in Illinois. They divorced in 1999 when the commute (flying between IL and CA weekly doesn't work out). When a senate seat became vacant, Jack Ryan campaigned for it. Newspapers then wanted the divorce and custody papers released, even though custody files were sealed by court order. A judge permitted this, and the subsequent negative publicity forced Jack Ryan to abandon his campaign. His opponent was none other than Barack Obama.
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Kasey Chang wrote:Today I learned that Star Trek Voyager lead to Barack Obama becoming president.

You see, Star Trek Voyager (started in 1997) has 7 of 9, played by Jeri Ryan, and apparently, Jeri has a very jealous husband Jack Ryan with political ambitions in Illinois. They divorced in 1999 when the commute (flying between IL and CA weekly doesn't work out). When a senate seat became vacant, Jack Ryan campaigned for it. Newspapers then wanted the divorce and custody papers released, even though custody files were sealed by court order. A judge permitted this, and the subsequent negative publicity forced Jack Ryan to abandon his campaign. His opponent was none other than Barack Obama.
Having lived through it in the news here while it was going on, I'd say it wasnt so much Voyager as it was Mike Ditka a New Orleans sex club.

The sex club is why Ryan fought to keep the records sealed, and what ultimately forced himbtobdrop out, and Ditka's decision not to run handed Obama the seat. Ditka probably wouldn't have won but he had a better shot than Alan Keyes.
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Yeah - Star Trek didn't lead to Obama becoming President. There's just a connection there.
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ImLawBoy wrote:Yeah - Star Trek didn't lead to Obama becoming President. There's just a connection there.
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Are you seriously trying to say that Spiders are using their undue influence in spelling bees by killing people?

People like you who make wild insinuations like that might be wise to be careful putting their hands in places where they can't see what they are reaching in to is all I'm saying.
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I dont have it but if I did it would be Tomb Raider on my PS4 Im sure.

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Kasey Chang wrote: When a senate seat became vacant, Jack Ryan campaigned for it. Newspapers then wanted the divorce and custody papers released, even though custody files were sealed by court order. A judge permitted this, and the subsequent negative publicity forced Jack Ryan to abandon his campaign.
...and that was when he joined the CIA.
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I knew it!!

Here is a pic of Jeri at divorce court. She trained hard to take on her sniveling husband.

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I just took a serious look at reverse mortgages. I never realized what a bad deal that was.
You only get about 1/2 the money the house is worth. Then the first year you only get 60% of the money you're supposed to get.
So if your house is worth $100,000 you can borrow about $50,000 and of that 50k you only get 25k the first year. (broker fees and what not accounting for the other 5k+)
The younger you are the less money you get the first year.
That's deal breaker to me.
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Regulators and academics have given mixed commentary on the reverse mortgage market. Some economists argue that reverse mortgages allow the elderly to smooth out their income and consumption patterns over time, and thus may provide welfare benefits. However, regulatory authorities, such as the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, argue that reverse mortgages are "complex products and difficult for consumers to understand," especially in light of "misleading advertising," low-quality counseling, and "risk of fraud and other scams."[1] Moreover, the Bureau claims that many consumers do not use reverse mortgages for the positive, consumption-smoothing purposes advanced by economists. In Canada, the borrower must seek independent legal advice before being approved for a reverse mortgage.
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dbt1949 wrote:I just took a serious look at reverse mortgages. I never realized what a bad deal that was.
You only get about 1/2 the money the house is worth. Then the first year you only get 60% of the money you're supposed to get.
So if your house is worth $100,000 you can borrow about $50,000 and of that 50k you only get 25k the first year. (broker fees and what not accounting for the other 5k+)
The younger you are the less money you get the first year.
That's deal breaker to me.
Unless you are completely broke and refuse to move or are about to die a reverse mortgage probably isn't a good deal.
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When the Zano mini-drone Kickstarter project went belly up last year, Kickstarter responded to the backer outcry by commissioning an investigative journalist, Mark Harris, to find out what had happened.

How Zano Raised Millions on Kickstarter and Left Most Backers with Nothing
Way too long; didn’t read

I can only apologise for the extreme length of this report. While no magazine or newspaper would have allowed me go into so much detail, I think Zano’s backers deserve the fullest possible picture of events. I hope that it remains readable and interesting, and that the minutiae of propeller plastics and inter-company loans were not too tedious.

If you couldn’t make it all the way through, I don’t blame you. Here’s a brief and partial summary.
  • Ivan Reedman’s Torquing brand traded variously as an IT consultancy, golfing tour operator, and software developer. The only product any of these enterprises made that I could identify as reaching the market is a wireless device that controls raising and lower trailer legs.
  • Torquing’s previous drone development work, a military surveillance quadcopter, was not completed to the satisfaction of its client. The drone never flew properly and did not enter production.
  • In the spring 2014, Reedman received private investment of around £150,000 to develop a palm-sized consumer drone called the Zano.
  • There is convincing evidence that the Kickstarter campaign video, released in November 2014, was misleading as to the existing capabilities and readiness level of the Zano.
  • The reason that the Zano was not shown flying at the CES trade show in January 2015 is that it was not capable of performing adequately.
  • The massive success of the Kickstarter campaign (20 times Torquing’s target) caused enormous difficulties for the Zano team, obliging them to develop additional features, as well as scale up communications and production by an order of magnitude.
  • Torquing directors may have awarded themselves higher salaries than necessary and spent money on superfluous items like cars, but there is no sign of sustained extravagance or criminal fraud.
  • Torquing did mount a serious, well-intentioned attempt to develop, manufacture, and deliver an intelligent autonomous consumer drone along the lines of their promises in the Kickstarter campaign. A seemingly dedicated staff couldn’t, in any case, meet the over-ambitious deadlines and specifications.
  • Torquing directors made a series of serious errors in committing the business to extremely high levels of stock in the absence of proven production models, or even fully functional prototypes.
  • Communications from the project creators to backers were, on the whole, regular and fairly honest. However, they were also incomplete, overconfident, and reflected a dangerous lack of self-awareness of the problems the company was making for itself.
  • Financial pressures led the creators to ship Zano units that they knew were not ready, and additionally to favour pre-order customers in the hope of receiving additional revenues.
  • The resignation of Ivan Reedman was the immediate cause of the directors of Torquing seeking liquidation, but the business was already on its last legs, with a shortfall of over £1m.
  • The liquidation is proceeding in a professional manner, but is unlikely to result in any refund, however small, to any Kickstarter backer.
  • Personally, I do not believe that the creators possessed the technical or commercial competencies necessary to deliver the Zano as specified in the original campaign.
  • Kickstarter, and other crowdfunding platforms, should reconsider the way that they deal with projects involving complex hardware, massive overfunding, or large sums of money. There should be better mechanisms to identify weak projects before they fund, as well as new processes to provide mentorship, support and expert advice to newly-funded projects.
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Scuzz wrote:
dbt1949 wrote:I just took a serious look at reverse mortgages. I never realized what a bad deal that was.
You only get about 1/2 the money the house is worth. Then the first year you only get 60% of the money you're supposed to get.
So if your house is worth $100,000 you can borrow about $50,000 and of that 50k you only get 25k the first year. (broker fees and what not accounting for the other 5k+)
The younger you are the less money you get the first year.
That's deal breaker to me.
Unless you are completely broke and refuse to move or are about to die a reverse mortgage probably isn't a good deal.
Or if you hate your kids and family and don't want them to get any of your stuff.
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Well, I thought that went without saying. Her kids?
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Hospital chagrined when it found out the anti-union cookies it ordered was actually re-iced OLD cookies from another hospital across town.

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Arby's new tv commercials are not only BAD bad they are annoying as hell also.
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I was looking at some zippo lighters on Massdrop when I remembered that my dad already has one... from my baby sister.

It says "Happy birthday, daddy! Please stop smoking!"

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That explains why it's in the original box... Unused...

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Dating problem !

I've been with my girlfriend for a wee bit over 6 months now and so far things were going great other than the fact that we don't see each other that often - She lives about an hour away and our work/school schedule don't match too well so she comes over one night on the week and I go over on Saturday and leave on Sunday morning since she has to work.

Now she's studying in the medical field and will soon need to start some training course and one of the place she likes the most if far. Not China far but far enough that if I wanted to stay with her I'd have to move, change job, I'd be far enough that seeing my friends would be a bit of a problem (over 4 hours back and forth).

I was a bit shocked when she told me that and she went a bit cold at my hesitation to just say "Yeah let's do it!" and now wants a break until I can give her a definitive answer.

I'm sooo not sure what to do, I can either say yes and hope things keep going well until the "big move" happens or well say no and this would basically end the relationship right there. Have any of you been in this situation before? I have alot of things and people that I care about here and while I'm happy with her I'm not sure how I'd feel without all of those roots I've created over the years.

What a fucked up situation :|
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Vorret wrote:Dating problem !

I've been with my girlfriend for a wee bit over 6 months now and so far things were going great other than the fact that we don't see each other that often - She lives about an hour away and our work/school schedule don't match too well so she comes over one night on the week and I go over on Saturday and leave on Sunday morning since she has to work.

Now she's studying in the medical field and will soon need to start some training course and one of the place she likes the most if far. Not China far but far enough that if I wanted to stay with her I'd have to move, change job, I'd be far enough that seeing my friends would be a bit of a problem (over 4 hours back and forth).

I was a bit shocked when she told me that and she went a bit cold at my hesitation to just say "Yeah let's do it!" and now wants a break until I can give her a definitive answer.

I'm sooo not sure what to do, I can either say yes and hope things keep going well until the "big move" happens or well say no and this would basically end the relationship right there. Have any of you been in this situation before? I have alot of things and people that I care about here and while I'm happy with her I'm not sure how I'd feel without all of those roots I've created over the years.

What a fucked up situation :|
IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
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Cortilian wrote:
Vorret wrote:Dating problem !

I've been with my girlfriend for a wee bit over 6 months now and so far things were going great other than the fact that we don't see each other that often - She lives about an hour away and our work/school schedule don't match too well so she comes over one night on the week and I go over on Saturday and leave on Sunday morning since she has to work.

Now she's studying in the medical field and will soon need to start some training course and one of the place she likes the most if far. Not China far but far enough that if I wanted to stay with her I'd have to move, change job, I'd be far enough that seeing my friends would be a bit of a problem (over 4 hours back and forth).

I was a bit shocked when she told me that and she went a bit cold at my hesitation to just say "Yeah let's do it!" and now wants a break until I can give her a definitive answer.

I'm sooo not sure what to do, I can either say yes and hope things keep going well until the "big move" happens or well say no and this would basically end the relationship right there. Have any of you been in this situation before? I have alot of things and people that I care about here and while I'm happy with her I'm not sure how I'd feel without all of those roots I've created over the years.

What a fucked up situation :|
IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
I know... that's the problem, there's no way I can know in this very tiny time frame. We sure text alot but we've never even spent 48 hours straight together, like the two of us, living as a "real" couple.

She believes that if I love her enough the answer will be easy, I feel she's missing the point. Maybe she's too young, I dunno :?
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Isgrimnur wrote:
ImLawBoy wrote:Yeah - Star Trek didn't lead to Obama becoming President. There's just a connection there.
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That graph summarized to Freakonomics correlations perfectly. Take any two things and there is some connection.

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IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
This isn't a marrying thing. This is a moving in together thing. Commitment, yes. Marriage, not yet.


Your friends will still be your friends if you move. If it doesn't work out and you move back, they'll be there for you. The big question is the job/finances. Will quitting and moving be a big problem? When my girlfriend of around 6 months wanted me to pick up and move >4 hours away for her career, I worked in very portable jobs (a line cook and server) and the new apartment cost the same. It was a no brainer. We were not the marrying types at all (about 2 years later, I got down on my knees, gave her a ring, and asked her not to marry me, much to her delight).

Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
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Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
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Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
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Isgrimnur wrote:
El Guapo wrote:
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Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
"Man, what did we do last night?"
You're well on your way to a career in Hollywood script writing.
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That's really weird because I've been ruminating on a story about a rough-and-tumble Boston area lawyer that is unfulfilled as his job so he's moonlighting as an L.A. romcom script-writer. When he finally gets a meeting with an agent, she turns out to be the woman of his dreams. Does he leave Boston to pursue the woman and the job? Or does he play it safe and keep lawyering? There's a great classic physical comedy scene with an alligator, and at the risk of spoiling the real story, an alien abduction.
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LawBeefaroni wrote:
Cortilian wrote:
IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
This isn't a marrying thing. This is a moving in together thing. Commitment, yes. Marriage, not yet.


Your friends will still be your friends if you move. If it doesn't work out and you move back, they'll be there for you. The big question is the job/finances. Will quitting and moving be a big problem? When my girlfriend of around 6 months wanted me to pick up and move >4 hours away for her career, I worked in very portable jobs (a line cook and server) and the new apartment cost the same. It was a no brainer. We were not the marrying types at all (about 2 years later, I got down on my knees, gave her a ring, and asked her not to marry me, much to her delight).

Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
It'll be much more expensive for sure, very close to Montreal instead of a small-ish town an hour away from the big city centers. Also I've been at the same job for 12 years, finding something similar will be a pain as I technically don't have any diplomas (though I do work in an IT related job).

I know my friends will still be there that's a no brainer but my niece, my mom (who lives alone and doesn't own a car and relies on me to do groceries and other little things around town) all live there as well.

Blerh. For some reason I can only find reason NOT to go, other than her there's not a single appealing thing in moving away from here, not one. I love my town and everything that comes with it :?
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Then you've made the decision. There are no soulmates. It sounds like you would be miserable trying to set up a new life, have plenty of reasons to stay where you are, and you guys aren't that committed to each other.
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I couldn't see moving, but then I'm a selfish person and I don't play well with others. I'd be all passive aggressive and turn it around on her. I'm established where I'm at and there's nothing for me to move to except you. Your making the decision to move is the declaration, the ultimatum that I am to be at your beck and call while you put your life in order.

It doesn't help my selfish perception that my ex was in the medical field and I never saw her when she getting her medical education and she wasn't the same person when she finished.
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What do you see yourself being more resentful over a year from now? Will you resent her for making you leave your hometown? Or will you start to resent your hometown for losing an opportunity with this woman?
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ImLawBoy wrote:What do you see yourself being more resentful over a year from now? Will you resent her for making you leave your hometown? Or will you start to resent your hometown for losing an opportunity with this woman?
This is where I fall over this. To borrow a page from Frank Herbert: Resentment is the relationship killer. Resentment is the little-death that brings total relationship obliteration.
Maybe next year, maybe no go
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Re: Random randomness

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Vorret wrote:
LawBeefaroni wrote:
Cortilian wrote:
IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
This isn't a marrying thing. This is a moving in together thing. Commitment, yes. Marriage, not yet.


Your friends will still be your friends if you move. If it doesn't work out and you move back, they'll be there for you. The big question is the job/finances. Will quitting and moving be a big problem? When my girlfriend of around 6 months wanted me to pick up and move >4 hours away for her career, I worked in very portable jobs (a line cook and server) and the new apartment cost the same. It was a no brainer. We were not the marrying types at all (about 2 years later, I got down on my knees, gave her a ring, and asked her not to marry me, much to her delight).

Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
It'll be much more expensive for sure, very close to Montreal instead of a small-ish town an hour away from the big city centers. Also I've been at the same job for 12 years, finding something similar will be a pain as I technically don't have any diplomas (though I do work in an IT related job).

I know my friends will still be there that's a no brainer but my niece, my mom (who lives alone and doesn't own a car and relies on me to do groceries and other little things around town) all live there as well.

Blerh. For some reason I can only find reason NOT to go, other than her there's not a single appealing thing in moving away from here, not one. I love my town and everything that comes with it :?
DUDE. Move to Montreal! Drummondville must be amazing and all...but...Montreal!

Related question: have you lived in a big city before?
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Re: Random randomness

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El Guapo wrote:
Vorret wrote:
LawBeefaroni wrote:
Cortilian wrote:
IMHO 6 months of exclusive dating is enough time for adults to figure out if it they are the marrying type. If you think she is the one, get hitched, and move away. If not, cut bait, and look for the right one.
This isn't a marrying thing. This is a moving in together thing. Commitment, yes. Marriage, not yet.


Your friends will still be your friends if you move. If it doesn't work out and you move back, they'll be there for you. The big question is the job/finances. Will quitting and moving be a big problem? When my girlfriend of around 6 months wanted me to pick up and move >4 hours away for her career, I worked in very portable jobs (a line cook and server) and the new apartment cost the same. It was a no brainer. We were not the marrying types at all (about 2 years later, I got down on my knees, gave her a ring, and asked her not to marry me, much to her delight).

Eventually we did get married, despite all our plans not to.
It'll be much more expensive for sure, very close to Montreal instead of a small-ish town an hour away from the big city centers. Also I've been at the same job for 12 years, finding something similar will be a pain as I technically don't have any diplomas (though I do work in an IT related job).

I know my friends will still be there that's a no brainer but my niece, my mom (who lives alone and doesn't own a car and relies on me to do groceries and other little things around town) all live there as well.

Blerh. For some reason I can only find reason NOT to go, other than her there's not a single appealing thing in moving away from here, not one. I love my town and everything that comes with it :?
DUDE. Move to Montreal! Drummondville must be amazing and all...but...Montreal!

Related question: have you lived in a big city before?
Yeah in Charlotte. It's nice but I wouldn't be staying in Montreal but on the north shore so meh.
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