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Jaymann wrote: Can't you just keep your same name when you get married?

I can...I chose not to. Makes some things easier/more convenient in the long run when spouses have the same last name.

gilraen wrote:

Jaymann wrote: Can't you just keep your same name when you get married?

I can...I chose not to. Makes some things easier/more convenient in the long run when spouses have the same last name.

My wife took my name but turned her former last name into her new middle name. Now that has caused some hassles.

People are happy with different choices, so there's obviously no single answer. But my wife kept her name when we got married 18 years ago, and she just told me that she has never once encountered a problem with it.

Holman wrote:People are happy with different choices, so there's obviously no single answer. But my wife kept her name when we got married 18 years ago, and she just told me that she has never once encountered a problem with it.

Same here, except it's been 32 years. Sometimes she gets called "Mrs (myname)" and sometime I get "Mr (hername)". Sometimes we correct people, more often just shrug it off, but I can't recall any legal or financial hassles in all that time.

There is when you get divorced. Make sure you have her "legal" name.

Kraken wrote:

Holman wrote:People are happy with different choices, so there's obviously no single answer. But my wife kept her name when we got married 18 years ago, and she just told me that she has never once encountered a problem with it.

Same here, except it's been 32 years. Sometimes she gets called "Mrs (myname)" and sometime I get "Mr (hername)". Sometimes we correct people, more often just shrug it off, but I can't recall any legal or financial hassles in all that time.

Nice to know.....


Mr. Hername.

Around here in rural Indiana it is pretty rare for a spouse to not change their name. My ex and I actually had a lot of headaches from local business and government offices that simply refused to believe that we were married because our names didn't match. It was just unheard of.

Of course, this is the same town where my ex was repeatedly berated by multiple people for working while I stayed home taking care of the kids. She was told, often, that she was harming her children because no man could ever be as nurturing as a woman.

You sure its where you live and not when you live? The 1950's weren't all that bad

Daehawk wrote:You sure its where you live and not when you live? The 1950's weren't all that bad

This town dried up after the 1960s. The young flee for the hills when they reach adulthood, and the shrinking population are either those who had their view of reality established in that era, or those few who embraced it so fully that they didn't get out when they grew up.

And then there are we, we few, we miserable few, we band of buggered. We are here because we can't leave due to some factor beyond our control. So we stay, and we grit our teeth at the rednecks and white trash, at the town fountain with the town's name misspelled, at the broken streets and sidewalks, at the racism and bigotry. It is like living in a strange alternate world where Justified had a bastard child with Mayberry.

Our population is so small in the burgs around here last names are not needed. Everybody calls you by your first name.
Cheers!

I've been through Arkansas a few times.

I mostly remember the mosquitoes.

I'll keep the corn and the bigots, thanks!

Blackhawk wrote:Around here in rural Indiana it is pretty rare for a spouse to not change their name. My ex and I actually had a lot of headaches from local business and government offices that simply refused to believe that we were married because our names didn't match. It was just unheard of.

Of course, this is the same town where my ex was repeatedly berated by multiple people for working while I stayed home taking care of the kids. She was told, often, that she was harming her children because no man could ever be as nurturing as a woman.

Stop it, you are making me homesick.....

Blackhawk wrote:I've been through Arkansas a few times.

I mostly remember the mosquitoes.

I'll keep the corn and the bigots, thanks!

Don't forget getting to wade in the crick.....

Rip wrote:

Kraken wrote:

Holman wrote:People are happy with different choices, so there's obviously no single answer. But my wife kept her name when we got married 18 years ago, and she just told me that she has never once encountered a problem with it.

Same here, except it's been 32 years. Sometimes she gets called "Mrs (myname)" and sometime I get "Mr (hername)". Sometimes we correct people, more often just shrug it off, but I can't recall any legal or financial hassles in all that time.

Nice to know.....


Mr. Hername.

As long as you call me Mister, we're cool.

Synchrony Bank sent me an email wanting me to rate their customer service online. I thought this ought to be good. When I clicked on the link it told me my internet connection wasn't secure and wouldn't let me pass go and collect my $200.
Actually my internet connection is secure but I'm not about to argue with them about it.
Another satisfied customer.

dbt1949 wrote:Synchrony Bank sent me an email wanting me to rate their customer service online. I thought this ought to be good. When I clicked on the link it told me my internet connection wasn't secure and wouldn't let me pass go and collect my $200.
Actually my internet connection is secure but I'm not about to argue with them about it.
Another satisfied customer.

Secure internet is a bit of an oxymoron.

Well, let's just say it was as secure on my end as I could make it.

dbt1949 wrote:Well, let's just say it was as secure on my end as I could make it.

I guess it isn't really secure unless you have the Secret Service guarding it.

I have the puppy/monkey/baby guarding it.

My wife just complained to me that work is pushing her to take some time off. She has 355 hours of PTO banked. She only works Tue-Thur, so that is about 15 weeks of vacation for her. They give her 6 hours every two weeks which she doesn't really need since every weekend is a 4 days weekend for her. She can sell it at 90%. I suggested she probably should be doing that before she starts losing it. She said she is saving it for an emergency... a 15 weeks off emergency?

Doing the math she gets 6 of her short weeks off per year, which I guess is reasonable given her 17 years of service, but with her short work week she has no use for it.

Respect to the man in the ice cream van!

We'll always have Paris

No. No you won't! I (the Zulus) just razed the place to the ground!

Not only that but I built the Eiffel Tower first.

All of the security force at my school walked out yesterday at the end of the day and called in sick today because the males were told to shave. Today has been.......interesting.

Seems like a petty reason to spread the blue flu.

Isgrimnur wrote:Seems like a petty reason to spread the blue flu.

It depends on what they were told to shave...

The USPS wouldn't leave a 30lb box of cat litter outside but they left a box with 15 silver eagles sitting on the sidewalk.

LawBeefaroni wrote:The USPS wouldn't leave a 30lb box of cat litter outside but they left a box with 15 silver eagles sitting on the sidewalk.

You do know that we aren't allowed to open your packages to see what they are, right?

Default wrote:

LawBeefaroni wrote:The USPS wouldn't leave a 30lb box of cat litter outside but they left a box with 15 silver eagles sitting on the sidewalk.

You do know that we aren't allowed to open your packages to see what they are, right?

Unless it's media mail.

The cat litter is usually un-wrapped (it's obviously 30 lbs of cat litter) and the silver was supposed to be signed for. I got the coins fine (albeit with a bit of ice on the box) and huffed to the store for more cat litter, it's just always roulette with them these days. Tracking will say non-delivery when I have the package sitting in front of me or will say delivered when it's actually in Montana. Yesterday I got buzzed at like 8pm for a USPS delivery from a contractor (no uniform and her kids were in the minivan parked out front, she did have a conspicuous ID though).

But I don't blame the carriers, our regular guy is great and the others just do what they're told on their non-regular route.
FWIW, a friend of mine is a 25-year USPS vet and he just laughs when everyone bitches. I know there's a lot I don't know and I know it's an invaluable service.

Kids in the car? We don't use contractors. Maybe s CCA before they got their uniform, but we don't allow people to deliver anything with kids in tow.

Remus West wrote:All of the security force at my school walked out yesterday at the end of the day and called in sick today because the males were told to shave. Today has been.......interesting.

They all got sun poisoning due to the extra exposed skin?

How the hell is Euphoria Morning almost 17 years old? I also had no idea the name was a typo and it was re-released last year with the correct name, though I should have guessed it given the general tone. I know overall it wasn't a highly-reviewed album, but as a path out of life in a post-grunge America I'm guessing I was squarely in the demographic. Spoiler alert -- I'm listening to it now and it's still good.

EDIT: I forget how many years it was after I found out that Wave Goodbye was written about Jeff Buckley, but it still kills me. RIP.

Default wrote:Kids in the car? We don't use contractors. Maybe s CCA before they got their uniform, but we don't allow people to deliver anything with kids in tow.

Well, not sure how to explain that delivery then. It was a USPS package, a woman with some kind of ID, and she got back in a minivan with a guy and some kids.

I went to a punked-out experimental adaptation of Shakespeare's Twelfth Night last night. It wasn't so much the play as a sort of improv experiment based upon it, yet every scene was Shakespeare's language and (especially) the lyrics to the play's songs, which many companies don't know what to do with. It was like some kind of Elizabethan rock and roll.

Not sure why I'm posting except that it was weirdly awesome, and I can't get it out of my head.

Im most definitely NOT a play person but I would love to see both A Mid Summers Night Dream and Phantom of the Opera live. Shame I cant see the 90's version of Phantom..Ive seen videos of Crawford and Brighton..wow. That boy was great. Hope he is doing ok these days.

I thought I had seen a lot of strange movies. Apparently not

http://flavorwire.com/476770/the-50-wei ... e/view-all

LordMortis wrote:I thought I had seen a lot of strange movies. Apparently not

http://flavorwire.com/476770/the-50-wei ... e/view-all

Think Ive seen some of them...well they seem familiar. The Boxing Helena I KNOW Ive seen. The wife saw it in the 90s and got me to watch it.
Always loved Sherilyn Fenn.

Daehawk wrote:

LordMortis wrote:I thought I had seen a lot of strange movies. Apparently not

http://flavorwire.com/476770/the-50-wei ... e/view-all

Think Ive seen some of them...well they seem familiar. The Boxing Helena I KNOW Ive seen. The wife saw it in the 90s and got me to watch it.
Always loved Sherilyn Fenn.

I didn't see but that was one of the few I even recognized.

Videodrome. That was it for me.

LordMortis wrote:I thought I had seen a lot of strange movies. Apparently not

http://flavorwire.com/476770/the-50-wei ... e/view-all

I'd only heard of six or seven of those, and I think I've seen at least part of three of them.

Those are some seriously bizarre movies. I think I only saw Liquid Sky. And heard of Rubber, Zardoz, and Boxing Helena (I may have seen a couple minutes of the latter).