First, I think you nailed peoples' interpretation of what I said, so I don't think you're the only one who read it that way. With that said though, my explanations were for naught even before I deleted my posts (which might be only the second time I've done it in the over a decade of time I've spent here. I've deleted other posts that I've thought better of, but not after a discussion had formed around them. Typically I would use the strikeout font. Obviously I regret deleting them in this instance). When the juggernaut is rolling, I should know better and get out of the way, but it pissed me off to be accused of something that I've been the exact opposite of my entire life.Blackhawk wrote:
Like you said, you deleted the post, so I'm having to go entirely on memory. If I've misrepresented you, I apologize. I do think that is how you came off, though, and may be why people were reacting so strongly.
Again, though, it has nothing to do with getting your naughty bits grabbed, and everything to do with someone with significant power over your career showing you that you're theirs to use, putting you, instantly, into a position of choosing to go along with something abhorrent or having your dreams and your future end on the spot. It wouldn't just be shocking, it would be a terrifying situation with no choice that wouldn't be devastating to your life. That is what the trauma comes from.
In retrospect I fully admit my original phrasing was poorly worded. That doesn't account for continuing to be accused of a position I don't hold after my explanations, which have either been disregarded, or found to be insufficient to clarify. Whatever.
The only relevant parts were quoted, as far as I remember. Anything else, which everyone has not bothered to remember, were words like "abhorrent", "punished", "not ok". And just in case there is confusion, I'll restate, I found Affleck's behaviour to be criminal, that he should suffer the full extent of the law, if only the victim would make a complaint, and that I found it just as abhorrent as Johansson getting her boob jiggled on the red carpet, which I found completely disgusting behaviour by the interviewer, but who escaped any sort of consequences that I'm aware of, presumably because Johansson never filed a complaint.
I also defended Affleck's right to be innocent until proven guilty (even if only in public opinion) early on, but with new accusations his guilt seems to be more likely. That might also have influenced peoples' willingness to interpret my words a certain way.
Listen, this is a no win situation for me. Continuing to defend myself has not worked, and people are only hardening their poor opinion of me. It doesn't matter what I say now, but I'm stubborn and feel I'm being unfairly maligned. Plenty of people feel it's completely justified and fair. Further words aren't going to change that.
People are welcome to believe what they want to believe. Hopefully I'll never have to face them in a jury.
So why don't we go back to discussing what a horrible monster Weinstein is, how other potential assaulters/harrassers are coming to light, and how many more women are going to speak out?
